What is an anti-fragile speaker and how does he profit from blunders in front of an audience?

During the war in the summer I happened to read the bookAnti-fragility' by Nissim Nicholas Taleb. 

Taleb, the author of "The Black Swan", is an economist of Christian-Lebanese origin who made hundreds of millions In the stock market predicting events like 9/11 and the great crisis of 2008 and then a few more millions From writing excellent books that explain his approach.

The book 'Anti Fragility' explains why objects people and certain institutions collapse under pressure while others actually flourish in crisis situations. His method, to develop an 'anti-breakage' approach, connected perfectly with the contents of lesson 4 I've been using it in my course for several cycles now, and I decided to tell you about it

What is anti-fragility?

There are things, like televisions, evening dresses and perfectionist speakers that are fragile by nature That is, they are destroyed when things do not go well. A little mess is enough to that they will break down, get dirty or get upset.

Other things like mobile phones, boots and bad Technion lecturers are durable (or not Fragile), meaning that when something bad happens they are not harmed and can continue as usual.

But there is a third category of things that are antifragile, namely the more there are Bardak they improve and praise for example stone paving, jeans and a certain type of Noamim (we will soon explain how to be like him) - the more messy the jeans look And more fashionable, the flooring looks more ancient and authentic, and the speaker becomes more original and fascinating.

Fragility and antifragility in public speaking

So what actually makes a speaker fragile? Mainly his attitude, and more precisely: perfectionism.

Perfectionism in public speaking is not necessarily bad, and there are a small number of speakers Great, for example Steve 'seventy-rehearses-before-every-presentation' Jobs, but for the vast majority of the people a perfectionist attitude is destructive (rule of thumb are you one of them: Is there a perfectionist around you who is more of a perfectionist than you?).

The reason is that such an attitude makes most people fragile. She measures success by Zero mistakes and as a result any failure in execution automatically reverses the entire speech  to failure  

If the self-criticism is severe enough, the result will be performance anxiety that will turn into fear Audience (intermediate stage: development of symptoms)

The solution: use mistakes. Don't be afraid of them

Taleb's solution connected perfectly with the tools we teach in lesson 4 of the course, The lesson that deals with feedback to myself and others. First the theory:

Nissim Taleb explains that faults, damages and stresses are actually a type of information, and that without it We are prone to breakdowns and crashes (even if in the short term we feel calm). Therefore our approach to failures determines whether we will be fragile or anti-fragile.  

The anti-fragility way to deal with failures is to look for them instead of running away from them, And once you have found them, use them as a tool to improve and prevent future failures.

This is an approach we work on in the course. Because from the first lesson we are investigating  together each exercise and ask the speaker:

i. what did you do well ii. what did you do wrong iii. How to fix anything bad?

Starting from the fourth lesson we teach the participants to interrogate each other And gradually they also learn how to interrogate themselves

And now for speaking in front of an audience:

The key to being anti-brittle from mishaps in a speech is with the help of constructive self-criticism. There are several techniques to turn self-criticism into constructive feedback, but the main emphasis Use the fault to find a solution.

We teach four steps

1. How I feel about my speech
   Good? So-so? Abomination of God?
   The initial feeling is usually very general, unreasoned and extreme
2. What is this feeling based on?
   (What in the speech made me feel this way? A problem with the content?
       Dealing with a question? A symptom of stress?)
3. What caused the malfunction? 
   Every fault has a reason, and when a fault occurs in a certain place in the speech (eg opening or answering questions) a sign that I lack professional tools to deal with it with pressure at this point.
4. How to handle such a problem in the future?
   What can I do so that the next time such a fault occurs is Avoid it or I will be able to solve it. And no, the phrase "I need to relax" It is not a solution, because if it worked the problem would not have happened. Must A solution that works in stressful situations.

And now finally - what do we do with it?

So after you have the knowledge how to become anti fragile speakers. What will you do with him?

Do you just read it and tell yourself that someday you will use it?

Will you promise yourself that from today you will start looking for opportunities to speak in front of an audience and simply Will you try to treat mistakes in a more constructive way?

Or maybe you will take the practical step and join an organized course?
One that creates opportunities Practice speaking in front of an audience, practice constructive self-criticism, and build a more confident attitude And anti-fracture for speaking in front of an audience?

Why not, actually?
Because you are afraid that the course might not be perfect?  
Isn't that a bit perfectionist?

I recommend just going for it.
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